Ok,

I’ll start off the second day post with how I technically started with the actual day…

A good friend of mine shared something with me that really stuck in my head for the rest of the day. She said,

“Inside every man is a king and a fool. When you address him, you decide which one you want to bring out”.

I really like how this is put. Think about it. You want to bring out the king inside of your man. Someone who is worthy of everything you can offer him. She finished by saying this,

“If we continually talk to our husbands like they are fools, yet expect them to act like a king, it makes no sense”.

It really doesn’t make any sense. How can I talk to the man I love anyway I want and expect him to act like a worthy human being. Words are so powerful. If we speak life into our spouse, those words will be manifested in their actions. If I tell him, “You can’t do anything can you?” or “You are so slow” or “You ALWAYS do this…”, how can he ever want to be a better person for me? Why would he ever want to do ANYTHING for me? If I have a negative perspective of him in any way, he’ll not only be discouraged about himself, but he’ll end up developing a negative outlook of me and our marriage. A man needs to be lifted up with words. Especially words coming from the woman that he loves. He needs to know that he is 100% supported and admired by his wife.

ADMIRED.

That’s something that I really need to remember. The dictionary defines this as “to appreciate or respect”….”to look at with enjoyment”. I need to be excited when looking at my husband. If I can look at material things with excitement, I can certainly get excited when I look at the most important man in my life.

When I think of a king I think of someone everyone looks up to and turns to. A leader. I almost see him as a person who doesn’t make mistakes, or if he does they’re certainly excusable. Husbands should feel like the leader in the relationship (after all, they are suppose to be). I know I struggle a lot with allowing my husband to become the leader in our relationship. I have such a strong personality that sometimes I tend to overstep my grounds with him. Though I may not always agree with some of the decisions he makes, I need to respect him and allow him to lead me. Behind every good leader is a good encourager. It’s time I became his loudest and proudest cheerleader.

Throughout the day there were a couple of times where I almost reverted back to how I use to talk to him when I got stressed. I have to go into the day knowing that I will most likely make a mistake or two, but the important part is catching myself and correcting myself. As soon as I said that one thing in the wrong tone I immediately told him, “sorry for the attitude babe”. Before, I always made excuses for my words and actions. In my head I would just think oh well, I’m stressed! He understands! An aggravated person is SUPPOSE to act this way.  The key is to manage the stress. OVERCOME it. Take a deep breath. Ask God for help. It IS possible to calm your thoughts before you spit out poison. Correct yourself before you wreck yourself…..and him.

Even though it’s only been two days, I’ve noticed such a difference this challenge has made between the two of us. A good difference. I’ve grown to have a whole new appreciation for him. Through forcing myself to change my tone and way of thinking, it really has become so easy to get along and understand one another. Not just communicate,  but understand. There’s a difference. You can communicate all day long, but if you don’t understand what’s being communicated, there’s nothing to build on. Relationships need to be maintained on a daily basis. You get what you put in to it. If I feed my relationship negativity, I’ll get negativity. If I talk foolish, I’ll get a fool. If I treat him like a king, I’ll get a king.

So here’s to tomorrow…