Well looks like I fell a little behind with my posts so I’m gonna combine two days…

I’ve really just been enjoying the moments. Trying to get lost in the time with my husband and kids. My husband and I lucked out the past couple of nights with the kids falling asleep early. We cherished every RARE second of it that we could… We found ourselves reminiscing of the days at the beginning of our relationship till now. It’s so crazy to really stop and think about how relationships grow so much. We were babies when we first got married. Life matures you so much. Having children matures you. God matures you. No one ever really knows what they’re truly getting into when they decide to get married.

Not meaning it as a bad thing.

It just goes beyond words. The complexity of life and marriage extends so deep… the battles, the triumphs, the celebrations, the monotony at times. We grow and learn so much, truly figuring out what it means and takes to become “one”. I will tell you though, no marriage can truly survive and be happy without God. Just remember that. You’ll know what I mean when you get to those times where you find yourself questioning.

I am beyond truly blessed.

It’s pretty easy to see that normally, but there are those times where you are hindered with discouragement. I can’t help to always think of something my mom told me not too long ago…

“If the grass is greener on the other side, water your’s more.”

It’s just human nature to compare. We look at other relationships and lifestyles and we compare them to our own. Some more than others. We often get discouraged when we see others happy when we’re not. We mock them, but deep down begin to envy. They never fight, they are so happy… or… They have everything… or …He seems like the sweetest husband… or …She’s the most loyal wife. 

We are constantly observing others. It’s ok to, to some extent, because it can give us a sense of inspiration and motivation. However, when you find yourself doubting your life and becoming unsatisfied with what you’ve been given, that’s when you get yourself in trouble. A lot of times we think happiness just happens. That’s not always the case. In fact, most of the time it’s hard earned. We CHOOSE the life we want to have. If my husband is falling short of my expectations, maybe I need to change my expectations. Maybe I need to invest in him more. Serve him. Respect him. Maybe he’ll serve and respect me. We can’t have all these expectations of our spouse if we can’t fulfill them ourselves. I get what I put in. If I want to live a happy life and have a happy marriage, I have to maintain it and take care of it…just like a green lawn. Grass dies if it’s never watered. The water is the grass’ life source. If I don’t bring life into my marriage, how can I expect it to survive and later thrive?

First things first, I need to spend time in prayer. Seek God. Ask him to help me see my husband and marriage through His eyes. Once I do that, my expectations and perspective will change.

Now, I can reevaluate my needs and wants.

Maybe what I thought I needed, I really don’t. Now, maybe what I actually need is easily obtainable. How? Because I’m choosing to obtain it, and by choosing, I mean investing into my marriage and husband a little everyday.

One thing I started doing these past couple of days was coming up with a goal a day that I need to work on….no cellphone usage while my husband’s home…compliment him more…be more affectionate. If I work on a little at a time, it becomes easily achievable to have a satisfying marriage.

I love my husband deeply. I refuse to let those words remain just words. Love is more than just a word, it’s an action.