Well here I go combining 2 days again lol…

I have to admit, it’s been an oober rough couple of days. Not so much dealing with my relationship with my husband, but just life in general. I started working again as a nurse. It’s been a busy couple of days to say the least. I’ve been having to get up at the butt crack of dawn to get 3 kids ready and out the house to drop them off all at separate places in order for me to get where I need to get. As soon as I get off of work, I have to pick them all up to start a whole new evening/night regimen. Not to mention fitting in time to homeschool my 6 year old and keeping up with cleaning the house….I’ve been trying.

REALLY TRYING.

It’s so hard to maintain a good attitude about everything all of the time. I find myself snappy sometimes. I just have to understand that I’m going to have these moments of mental relapse. I’m only human. The key to it is, making sure I’m quick to catch myself. Making sure I’m quick to apologize for it. Like tonight, I was so overwhelmed with having all three kids after I got off of work. Doing schoolwork with my little girl, then having to give them all baths, then dealing with their fussy tantrums at times….all by myself (my husband plays guitar for our church and has commitments many evenings). He didn’t get home till 10, when I was expecting him at least 30 min prior. Listening to all three kids crying at the same time on top of trying to wash dishes…let’s just say I wasn’t on my “A” game with how my attitude should have been. I held a lot of it inside and tried to keep it contained. By the time my husband walked in, I just couldn’t be completely happy with the situation. I needed help. I think it’s okay to ask for it every now and then ha. He just has to understand. As long as I act genuine and not too bossy, it’s all good : ). I will admit I got a little snappy tonight. I think he can forgive me this time lol.

You know, sometimes husbands do need a little reminding of when you need help and I think that’s okay to do. We just have to make sure we are approaching them and doing it the right way. Be patient, they can’t always read your mind. Don’t assume or expect anything because you’re many times, setting them up for failure. Bottom line, men don’t think like women. It’s how they were created. Not bad, just different. We have to always keep that in mind and remain patient with them. EXPLAIN things to them and communicate what we need in a respectful way. Sometimes it’s hard to be respectful, believe me, I know. (Especially when you’re stressed and you don’t always feel respected) Sometimes you just have to take the initiative. He is my husband, the leader of my household, so I need to respect him as such no matter how he tends to act. I promise, if you have a genuinely good hearted man who you know loves you, he will start respecting you in return. Reminding yourself of his intentions help sometimes. You know he doesn’t intend to hurt, so you need to intend to understand his actions and forgive, respect, and remain patient.

Ever since I’ve made a genuine effort with becoming more patient and loving, I’ve noticed him understanding me more. I’ve noticed him WANTING to do things for me instead of him feeling like he HAS to. He’s been catering to me more. It’s been nice :).

I don’t know what you’ve been taking away from all of this, but I urge you to just try. Try to make a genuine effort in becoming more patient and kind. Minimize the attitude and snappy moments. Even if you just try it for a day or two. I promise, you’ll notice and feel such a difference. It’s refreshing. By me doing all of this, it has not only helped my marriage out a ton, but it’s also helped me better handle life in general. I needed this….badly.