Create your own love story…

Let’s face it, we have a tendency to seek out and be entertained by other love stories. “Romantic” movies, books, other seemingly happy relationships…We daydream about what life could be like instead of what it would be like. What I mean by that is, we look at outside sources for romance and think, that’s not my life or I wish it was. We get so caught up in OTHER stories that we forget that we have our own. We tend to miss that our REALITY is actually probably much better than any daydream. Who really should define what romance is to begin with? I’ve always had some stereotypical idea of what being “romantic” was. Who says romance should fit in a box? We can make/define it to what we want it to be. Whatever makes us happy. Instead of comparing OUR STORY to the stereotyped idea, we need to accept it as our true happiness.

Before, I would get so caught up in the everyday happenings of life. I would slap this idea on it thinking it was just too dull because it didn’t appear to be like the stereotype of what I thought romance to be. BIG MISTAKE. Today, I ran across some of my husband and I’s card collection. Basically all the cards we have given each other over the 8 1/2 years we’ve been together. It made me realize, stepping back, how truly beautiful OUR love story was. Something that wasn’t so plain Jane after all.

Cards have seemed to be “our thing” over the years and I somehow have managed to save most if not all of them. It was truly incredible to go back and read all of these. (I highly suggest you keep all cards and/or sentimental things from your relationship) It was fun to just sit there with my husband and read/reminisce about our relationship, beginning to now. We were so young and oblivious to the struggles of marriage. However, it’s so refreshing to read our young passion and innocent love we had then. It brings back those same butterflies I use to have in the beginning. It made us appreciate the deeper love we have for each other now too. It was so neat to read all of the cards we gave to each other, even when we were dating…the first card ever given even.

Our first year of marriage…

The little notes left here and there…

I was able to see how truly special our story was. We’ve grown so much. Have been through so much. This is a real testament that you really make life and relationships how you want them to be. This is MY REALITY. I have to invest in it. I can’t hold back in my actions and displays of love for my husband. Life is too short. Relationships are too vulnerable. What good am I doing by comparing our love story to someone else’s? What good am I doing by holding back saying “I love you” or “you’re so amazing” or “I’m so attracted to you”? You’ll notice such a difference in your closeness with one another once you start being aware of how you express yourself to him.

I want to “date” my husband again. Make him feel like I’m trying to “win” him EVERYDAY. Even in the moments of frustration, just appreciate him and who he is. Be PROUD of him. I’m with him for life so I might as well make it the best life it can be! I want to look at him in admiration and not in aggravation over something he did that doesn’t even really matter in the big scheme of things. A man wants his wife to be proud of him. They require quite simple things…unlike us lol. I want to strive to impress HIM and not anyone else. Don’t let yourself go because you’ve already gotten him. If you want to keep him, work at it and don’t be complacent. So fix yourself up, and date him again!